Understanding the Wild Sensitive

What happens when sensitive people stop trying to fit into a world that doesn't fully understand them and begin creating a community designed for who they truly are?

In this episode of The Wild Sensitive Podcast, Randy and Annet share the vision, challenges, and exciting progress behind building a global community for Highly Sensitive People and Highly Sensitive Sensation Seekers. They explore why so many sensitive individuals have spent years feeling misunderstood, isolated, or caught between worlds, and why connection with like-minded people can be so profoundly life-changing.

Creating a community is about far more than building a website or hosting events. It is about creating a place where people can feel safe enough to be themselves, courageous enough to grow, and supported enough to pursue meaningful lives. Randy and Annet discuss the ongoing effort to build the Wild Sensitive Village, an online ecosystem where sensitive souls can learn, connect, share their stories, and discover that they are not alone.

Whether you are newly discovering your sensitivity or have spent years navigating the unique challenges and gifts that come with it, this episode offers a behind-the-scenes look at a movement dedicated to helping sensitive people thrive rather than simply survive.

Join us as we explore what it means to create a village for those who feel deeply, think deeply, and still long for adventure, growth, connection, and purpose.

Because sensitivity was never meant to be carried alone.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:03

What if you could live boldly and feel deeply to explore the edges of adventure?

SPEAKER_01 0:08

While embracing the heart of sensitivity at the same time.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

Welcome to sensitive podcast.

SPEAKER_01 0:15

The bold exploration meets deep sensitivity. We're the living adventures and life partners. And that's one and Randy Grimson. Together, we're going to challenge the stereotypes and ask provocative questions. Join us now as we begin this journey.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

Well, hey there.

SPEAKER_01 0:38

Hey!

SPEAKER_00 0:39

How are you doing?

SPEAKER_01 0:40

I'm doing great.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Yeah. You are doing great. You know, I I no, I mean that because I mean we have been working our butts off trying to get the village up and running. And and I just wanted to show how much I appreciate all the effort that you're putting in. And I I see it every day. And I I just want to say thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:01

Well, that works both ways because we are both working our ass off.

SPEAKER_00 1:06

Yeah. Yeah. So one of the things that we've struggled to get going again is the podcasts, right?

SPEAKER_01 1:14

Yeah, true. I mean, there were a couple of things that hold held us back, but um we're back at it now.

SPEAKER_00 1:20

Yeah, we're gonna make a bigger commitment to getting the podcast out there so that people can understand a little bit more about wild sensitivity as opposed to the highly sensitive person, right? Because they are different.

SPEAKER_01 1:32

Oh, hugely different, massively different. The more we explore this, the more we discover that the the differences are really, really big.

SPEAKER_00 1:41

Yeah. You know, ironically, you know, the l sensitive community has been proclaimed to be 20 to 30 percent of the population. And at the same time, the research by Elaine Aaron and Tracy Cooper um have kind of indicated that 50% of that population is also high sensation seeking. And that's where the misunderstanding comes into play because a lot of the people we talk to, they're like immediately jumping on, oh, I'm not a high sensation seeker because I don't jump out of airplanes. And and there in itself, that's a huge misleading understanding of what high sensation seeking really truly is, right?

SPEAKER_01 2:26

Yeah, true. I mean, there's it surprises me every day again that I mean, even uh mm people who are really well versed on the subject, on high sensitivity, um, and and very experienced researchers, even, who are not fully grasping the part of high sensation seeking in a highly sensitive person. And that's just like in a way it's mind-blowing, but it also shows exactly the challenge is that most people do not have a really good understanding of how high sensation seeking shows up in a highly sensitive person.

SPEAKER_00 3:12

Yeah, yeah. I wonder if that has to do with the pathologizing of sensitivity in many ways, right? Where for years the focus has been on trying to convince sensitive people they're broken in some ways.

SPEAKER_02 3:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:24

And yet when you factor in the sensation seeking, and I mean after all, what is sensation? Sensation is feeling, right?

SPEAKER_03 3:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:32

Um, but when you factor in sensation seeking and our our drive and for wanting to do more, be more, um, that kind of rules out the pathologizing of it. And and there's no money in that, right?

SPEAKER_01 3:45

That's very true.

SPEAKER_00 3:46

Right. And so it kind of, you know, if I can't make money off of your, you know, so-called vulnerability, then what's the point?

SPEAKER_01 3:55

Yeah. Well, and then and that's I guess is I mean, our vision is all about uh the strength of a wild sensitive and also the sensitive person. There's huge strengths in that as well. And I I think that you have to separate uh two things in that whole vision about what is what is high sensitivity. Do high sensitive people have struggles? Do they have uh issues and challenges? Yes. Uh just as less sensitive people and everyone else in the world. And so whether or not you struggle or have an issue in life that you have difficulty dealing with, that does not depend on your high sensitivity or your high sensation seeking part. It just shows in some way that you have a problem or a challenge.

SPEAKER_00 4:50

Well, yeah, I mean, i is it even a problem or is it just a challenge? I mean, there's a difference between having a problem and having a challenge, right? A challenge is just something you need better skills at, and you can overcome that challenge. A problem is something that is you're facing and and it's causing you grief in your life uh in a bigger way.

SPEAKER_03 5:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

Maybe they are the same, I don't know. But uh what I do know is is that for years we've been repeating the cycle of you know, sensitivity is this, sensitivity is that, and you go on platforms all over social media and you see the echo of you know victimization. I'm I'm a victim of sensitivity.

SPEAKER_01 5:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:33

And so our theme this month is creating something that has never existed before. That's our theme in the village, right? Yeah, and and that goes a long way because that's what we're doing with the village, is we're trying to create something that has never existed before. And through that village concept, what we're trying to build is is something that empowers people, educates them, offers them a space where they can communicate and talk and and share and and learn.

SPEAKER_01 6:01

Yeah, so there's a lot of um communities for sensitive people out there, and they all seem to have I mean, most of them are focused on strengthening the HSP. Like we we talk about uh skills, we talk about practice and and uh seeing sensitivity as a skill, as a as a good thing, it's a neutral trait, right? And there's still a lot of people attracted who are broken. And so that's that's in most of the communities the theme. It's like I feel something is is wrong with me. And from our perspective, in our community, we are trying to to focus on uh the good things, on increasing those good things and also um having more people joining. It's not just about us teaching other people, it's about people teaching other people.

SPEAKER_00 7:08

Yeah, that's community, right? Yeah. And the the the idea is to try to bridge the the the gap between the sensitive community and the sensitive community. There there's islands all over the place, like you said. There's platforms, there's you know, people trying different things. What what what's causing that though? What's causing that like I gotta be on my own little island and I I'm gonna do my own little thing as opposed to trying to come together? Like, what do you think is causing that division amongst the sensitive community?

SPEAKER_01 7:45

Well, I guess if you if you look at it from from that broken perspective, there's very quickly um what Elaine Aaron also calls the ranking and linking, right? Um if if the moment you're talking about broken people, if there's something wrong with you, you automatically seek for someone who teaches you. And so that ranks the the us, I guess. Um and from that ranking you get more of a looking up or looking down at someone instead of looking at it like maybe you have something you can teach me, but maybe I have something I can teach you. And that's one of the things maybe influencing our our view on things is that we if we have a challenge in our life, we look for people who can teach us. And so that creates distance in itself.

SPEAKER_00 8:42

How does that create distance? If we're looking for somebody that teaches us, and yet there's all these people out there trying to teach people um about sensitivity, and and we gotta be careful about that because I mean there's it's the wild west out there. And we've said that many times, right? I mean, y depending on what platform you jump into, I mean, you're getting a hodgepodge of people claiming to be experts in sensitivity, and there really isn't any expert at all. Even Elaine Aaron is not an expert in highly sensitive understanding because there's so much to learn about it, so much to every person that is sensitive is unique. So, how can you be possibly uh I'm not saying that they're not knowledgeable, I I agree that they're knowledgeable. And you and I have spent the last three years researching sensitivity and sensation seeking. We become more knowledgeable. Are we experts in the field? I don't think so.

SPEAKER_01 9:38

No. I think that's exactly the the thing, right? I mean, I've seen that over and over again in in the highly sensitive community, but also in other places, is that people have their own little expertise on a specific subject, and they start like, oh my god, I I've seen this, but it's based on your own challenges that you overcame in life. And that's what you're looking for to solve your own problem. And once you are becoming a little bit skilled in that, you immediately think like, oh, I can teach other people, and that's what everyone is doing in the HSP community, is they're teaching other people how they overcame their own difficulty. And I've been seeing that. I mean, that's one of the things that I I struggled with as a coach. I I felt I couldn't tell people you need to do this, and then you have a better way of dealing with it. You need to find your own way. And that's a matter of collecting of all these experts out there, collecting all these little nuggets, put them together and um, how do you say that? Amalgamate them. Yes, exactly. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:58

I yeah, I just I you know, like every every day that we work towards, you know, bringing people together and trying to communicate with them, it's like a giant silence out there. Like everybody is observing or are they ignoring, or like what uh you know, like I uh it's not just our platform, right? Like, I mean, the village, I mean, we have grown quite a bit since we started, and I'm we're amazed and and so valid, like uh thank you for that. Um, but when we look out at the other platforms that are out there, there is nobody engaging, there's nobody talking, there's nobody sharing.

SPEAKER_02 11:31

No.

SPEAKER_00 11:31

Um what why? Like, what's if if we are the the the things that we read all the time is you know, highly sensitive people, sensitive people love to have connection, yet we're not connecting.

SPEAKER_03 11:44

No.

SPEAKER_00 11:45

And we're actually avoiding the opposite. So do we want connection? Is that real? Or is that just something that we're being led to believe that we want connection?

SPEAKER_01 11:56

Well, I think it's something that is influenced by today's society, like how our structure of of the world is, um, by having everything at your fingertips through the internet, um, we also became more selective and more observing because we see more things that we see we don't want to engage yet in it because it's like we're exploring it. And once we feel that it's really, yes, this is me, then we start really, really carefully dipping our toe in the water and seeing if this is right for us. I mean, the people we have been engaging with, they are careful, they are testing out like, is this something for me? And I mean, we had some great conversations with people that really, really felt seen. It's like, oh my god, this is the first time that I have someone listen to me that really gets me.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

Yeah. I love it when I've heard I don't know how many times now, and and and it's from different people what they say. I, you know, finally people see the wild side of me. Yeah, and and that's the that's the thing that gives me goosebumps is when I hear that is yeah, we all have, well, not all of us, but there's a good population of people out there that are sensitive.

SPEAKER_02 13:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:15

And they're wild. They they've got a craving, they've got a you know, desire to live life in full, grow, whatever. But for some reason, we've created a society that you know rejects and shuns and criticizes and and and honestly, like I sensitive people are really good at that. They're really good at at sh you know, sh shunning ourselves, shaming other people, you know, rejecting other people. I felt that firsthand.

SPEAKER_01 13:44

So and I think that I mean it's I notice that there's so much, so many uh men stepping up and and joining our village. Yeah. And they're more active. I mean, we had calls where there's more men than females, I mean, in the HSP community. That's like really Yeah, I know, right? That's unique.

SPEAKER_00 14:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:07

That's really unique.

SPEAKER_00 14:08

Yeah, our last week's um connection circle was great because there was there was way more men than there was women. Even the women were saying, like, I can't believe there's so many men here. Right. I mean, that's a really cool thing.

SPEAKER_02 14:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:20

And but we also talked about maybe that's because you know men don't really accept as readily as others would like to believe the whole highly sensitive person label. Once they hear the wild sensitive label, um, they're more attracted to that. It's like, yeah, I'm I'm I'm I'm more like that.

SPEAKER_01 14:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:42

You know?

SPEAKER_01 14:43

True. I think that from my I mean, from a female's perspective, indeed, I think that the wild sensitive, maybe for for females, it's more like, oh, I don't know about that. Uh you're more connected to the sensitive person uh idea concept. And for men, it's more um if you as a man, as a male, you enter a community and you see it's focused on the sensitivity part, that's probably even though if you would recognize yourself in it, it probably still gives you a feeling of like, oh no, I don't want to go here. Because it's not something that's been appreciated in men for how I don't know how long. So if you enter our little community, wild sensitive, it's something like, oh yeah, this is something I can take on. This is a label that feels more uh good, it feels less um uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_00 15:45

Yeah, and it's not just about the label, it's about the identity.

SPEAKER_01 15:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:49

Right? And so if if we walk into a room and it's labeled highly sensitive person, um, yeah, there's part of our identity there. We can we can associate with some of the highly sensitive people, but there's still that other part of us that isn't identified, we isn't seen, isn't recognized, and is actually downplayed in in that group in that room, right? And the minute we hear I'm not a sensation-seeking person, yeah, okay. So I don't belong here. I I belong in a different room. And we certainly don't belong in the high sensation-seeking adrenaline junkie room because we're more thoughtful, we're more practical, we're more, you know, deeper processors really.

SPEAKER_03 16:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:36

And so where do we belong? There's been no room for us to enter into until now, and that's why we created what we created, because you and I both felt like we didn't belong anywhere out there.

SPEAKER_03 16:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:46

And and so having a room where both your sensitive side and your sensation seeking side, it doesn't have to be wild. It just means that you you you you know understand that term, sensation seeker, boredom susceptibility, new and novel experiences. Right? Um yeah, there's thrill and adventure in there, and there's disinhibition in there too. There's there's four different categories that high sensation seekers fit into. Um, but people have been just programmed to automatically associate sensation seeking, high sensation seeking with that adrenaline junkie person.

SPEAKER_01 17:23

Yeah, true. I mean, uh th like you said, there's the four aspects of it, and most people only look at the one. And the other three um are just as much there. Um and that's what people sort of I mean, I think even that the novelty seeking is sort of um seen as part of a highly sensitive person. The the depth of processing that we have. I mean, a lot of people recognize like, yeah, I like new things and I don't want too much repetition. Um but in fact that is one of the tr the aspects of the high sensation seeker, not necessarily the highly sensitive person.

SPEAKER_00 18:10

Right. Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:11

So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:12

Well, it's just about understanding yourself, right?

SPEAKER_01 18:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:14

And and you know, what one of the researchers said that the reason that there's no focus on the sensation seeking part is because they don't even fully understand the highly sensitive part, so they want to focus on that. That brings me back to that's because it's easier to pathologize that. Yeah, um, as soon as you factor in the sensation seeking, well, there's less opportunity um to earn a buck from it. And so ultimately it's about figuring ourselves out, about learning who we are and and getting comfortable with that.

SPEAKER_01 18:47

If you try to to look at that logically, then um to start with, like, yes, we have the differential susceptibility, right? We are more influenced by our surroundings, uh, positive surroundings, but also the negative surroundings. So if we are like, for instance, growing up in a bad environment and we have uh parents who don't really have good parenting skills, then we are more damaged by that. But that's the whole issue in itself, is that we are more affected by it. And so by being more affected by it, yes, there are going to be more people, more highly sensitive people who don't have skills to deal with their life situation, who have bigger problems, who have challenges, who have anxiety, who have stress-related uh things going on in their life, who have just not the capability to deal with life. And so that's that's the whole issue. It's not that we um necessarily have more challenges, it's just that we're more susceptible to those bad environments. But what if you look at the other side, we're just as susceptible to the positive side.

SPEAKER_00 20:07

Yeah, I think it's hard to compare who has more challenges. I mean, we all think we have more challenges than another person, and yeah, we we really don't know, right? Um that's a that's a a realm, if you want to call it, that we'll never be able to enter into because you can't go into another person's life and compare how they're dealing with life and how you're dealing with life. But I I I want to go back, I want to share a story about uh one that I shared with one of our wayfinders the other day. And it goes it it relates really to how what we experience as kids can impact us as adults, right? And it's the the dentist story that I shared with you a long time ago, where my mom took my brother and I to a dentist, I think it was about 10 years old or so, uh, grade six, whatever age that was. And I sat in the dentist chair, I was the first one, the youngest, and all of a sudden, you know, he tells my mom I have 12 cavities and she's horrified, right? So I got in big trouble because, you know, you gotta brush your teeth better, you gotta do all this other. And so the next few appointments were basically me having my teeth drilled and filled um to get rid of that. And then my brother went in, he was after me, and sure enough, he had I don't know how many dozen or more cavities as well. And so she gave him the same lecture. You gotta brush your teeth, you gotta do this, you know. And so he had his face drilled and filled, you know, to go along. And then my mom sat in the chair, and the dentist told her she had all these cavities. That's when she got up and she said, BS, I've never had a cavity in my life.

SPEAKER_03 21:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

And stormed out of there. The problem was is that that dentist was just making money off of us off the vulnerability of my. Mom, your children have these cavities. I'm going to drill their teeth and I'm going to make a buck off of them.

SPEAKER_03 22:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:05

Without realizing that that long-term effect of those the shoddy workmanship that he did impacted my entire life with the the the work, right? And this is what happens with people. We end up taking advice, we end up taking, you know, wisdom, so-called, believing certain people. And that can impact you for your. You know, the irony is I've never had a cavity ever since then, right?

SPEAKER_03 22:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:35

I never had one. And so the the did I have cavities? I don't know. I have no clue. We have to trust that this person knew what he was doing. But did he? And was he just trying to make a buck off of us and plugging in all these things into my head feelings?

SPEAKER_03 22:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:53

Um, not even caring about the long-term effect. And that's what we got to be careful with, with the information we get off the internet, um, resources that we may see as being, you know, authorities because they have a shingle on the wall. We've got to be careful about that.

SPEAKER_01 23:08

Yeah, true. True.

SPEAKER_00 23:09

And so the whole highly sensitive world, I I I just I look at it and I say, wow, what a what a wild west it is. And how do we make sense of that in any way, shape, or form when there's so many people out there like trying to tell a story?

SPEAKER_01 23:26

Well, I think that's it's it's becoming something general. Um, because I don't think it's it's just the highly sensitive people community. It's it's everywhere. That there's so much information out there, um, so much people these days who think they know a lot about a topic. I mean, um, how does that translate? And Dutch you have like um uh the literally, if you would translate it, it's like experience expert. Right. That's like a very commonly used word in the Netherlands. Like if you try to teach someone, you could either be an educated expert or you're an experience expert, right? And so the experience expert is also someone who is seen as like, oh, you know what you're talking about. But we have a lot of those these days, right?

SPEAKER_03 24:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:18

People who do not necessarily have the the the scientific or informational background on something, and that's you see that everywhere. Yeah, and so it's really hard to these days to discern between who really knows what they're talking about, plus what is their intention. Are they all about making money or are they about helping people?

SPEAKER_00 24:43

And that goes back to a question if if you know, and and hats off to all those people out there that are trying. They're really gonna can, you know, good for you guys for trying. Yeah, and in your own way, that's what we want, right? Is that there there has to be different flavors of ice cream for people to, you know, figure out what works for them.

SPEAKER_03 25:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:02

And but at the same time, I'm wondering if they're unwilling to communicate and share and and connect with one another because they don't want their their waters muddied that this is my belief and I'm gonna believe in this, and I don't want your belief to come in and and taint my belief. But isn't that what it's really all about? Is about because there's so little understood about this whole concept, is to listen to other people and hear what they have to say and be acceptant of what other people say and and try to figure this out together because the science community is doing a very little job on it. And yet there are so many people, I mean, 20 to 30 percent of the population, right? I mean, that have this. So it's good for us to come together under one sort of arena and have conferences, have talks, help each other learn, and as opposed to nope, don't, nope, don't come near me, man, with your theories and your ideas because I got my own and I don't want to talk to you.

SPEAKER_03 26:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:05

I I don't know if that's the proper way to go about it. Maybe maybe it is. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 26:11

Well, I think it's a big and I don't want to make it too um out there, but I think it's a it's it's a shift in general that we're going through as a world, as a society, because we do come from an era of where people who studied, who who went to university and college, they were the ones who knew, right? If you look at doctors, uh lawyers, um uh what other examples can you have for that? Those were the people we listened to, right? The mayor, they know what they're talking about in what is good for us. And we're shifting in that, in that we're um we're challenging that. Is that true? Because there's much more people out there who have lived experience and who also have lots of valuable things to teach to people, and so we're looking at knowledge and people who know from a different perspective. And some people hold on to the old uh style in that way. It's like if you have written a book, then you're knowledgeable, right? But that's shifting also. I mean, everyone can write a book these days, and you can put it full with nonsense, even. Yeah, yeah. And so it's it's shifting, our whole culture is shifting. It's like who is knowledgeable?

SPEAKER_00 27:36

But uh it that's it in itself, right? Is like we've lost that authoritarian view of life. Like we used to trust our leaders, we used to trust these the the people that had those shingles on the wall, and yet what we're proving more and more as we're sharing more information and more insight, more visibility, is that hang on a second, they're they're not so trustworthy after all.

SPEAKER_01 28:01

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 28:02

And and so we're losing our whole faith in what is trustworthy and what isn't trustworthy, right?

SPEAKER_01 28:07

Yeah. Yeah, that's that's so true. That's exactly what I'm talking about, is is how that shifts. And people I think are kind of still figuring it out. Like, how do I discern whether or not someone is trustworthy or not? Um, we have to learn new skills to uh to see that. And I think that I mean, as sensitive persons, we really need to apply our depth of processing to that, to pay for to to pay attention to the little details like um trust your spidey sense uh in in situations like that. How do I feel with this person? And if you're not too skilled at that, then you can be taken advantage of.

SPEAKER_00 28:57

Well, that's that's one of the things that I've experienced over the last five years is that putting your trust into people, even if they're calling themselves sensitive, right, can be very, very harmful.

SPEAKER_03 29:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:09

And you know, it's when we put our trust into people that you know we we think that we have a connection with, um, and all of a sudden we get burned, yeah. Then you're less likely to put your trust into another person. That connection starts to separate. And that's the society we're creating, is a creating a society of disconnection, not of connection, because of w we were just we're not considerate and compassionate to one another and accepting of one another's differences.

SPEAKER_01 29:39

Yeah. That's very, very true. And I guess that's the um and I don't want to pat ourselves on the back with that, but that's what we're trying in the in the village is to create something new that has never been created before. To have other people add in their value and to create that mix of like uh person A has something valuable to teach, B has something different, and then there's C and D and the whole alphabet of people, right? And everyone has something to offer to teach. And it as a as a visitor there, as a person who's coming into the village, you can just pick and choose whatever you like, whatever fits you, whatever fits your design, yeah, whatever you need.

SPEAKER_00 30:29

That's the the idea is to have it so customizable that it can be a unique experience to each individual that that wants to partake in it, right?

SPEAKER_01 30:37

I mean, some people who who joined our village and who we've been talking to, they were in a way surprised. It's like I can be myself here. I can I can I don't need to filter or like I need to adapt in any way. It's like really, yeah, yeah. That's that's the whole point.

SPEAKER_00 30:58

Oh yeah, no, and I like I say, you know, how many communities have you engaged with out there that shut you down, filter you, you know, stop you from sharing your voice because it doesn't align with them. Yeah, and that's not the village. The village is about having diversity, having acceptance, having you know, be come as you are. No matter how messy that is, come as you are and help build a community that you know accepts others as they are.

SPEAKER_01 31:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:30

And together we can help one another, support one another.

SPEAKER_01 31:34

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. I mean what you said there is like how it's not even necessarily that you are get that you get shut down or um but it's it it it feels most of the time as if you still have to adapt to others' norms in order to be accepted. I mean, I certainly felt that as a in a highly sensitive community, that that part that I couldn't name, the the the sensation seeking to call it like one term, but to you still feel different. And I still felt like I can't really show that part of myself because then you get the the question mark and the label like, oh, you're not really highly sensitive. Right. Because you're too bold, you're too direct, you're too and I don't know, maybe my my Dutch personality influences that also a little bit, but that uh being too direct and being too bold is not something in the highly sensitive world that is like recognized that you're part of us because you are not, and and so I always felt like I needed to hide that a little bit because like, oh I might be kicked out.

SPEAKER_00 32:49

Yeah. Oh it's it's so true. I mean, that's the that's the the thing. And the you you know, going back to kicking out, nobody gets kicked out of the village. No, right? That's the you know, regardless of what they do, what they say, how they are. Um yeah, we have guidelines, yeah, we have you know, but we don't kick you out. We just we we talk to you, we we find out what's going on, we we uh but that's the difference between a lot of the other communities. They're quick to kick you out, um if you don't align with what their perspectives are.

SPEAKER_01 33:22

Mm-hmm. Yeah. So I mean I that that goes back to your uh logic and and inside concept, if you will, about safety, right? Um yes, there's um rules, if you would call them that in the village. You cannot call other people names and and stuff like that. That's something of course that is in in place, but at the same time, yes, you can speak your truth. And um if that is hurtful or if someone else um takes that as a as um as an insult, it it's not always about it being an insult. Sometimes it's about being triggered. Um and that is a very, very important thing. And that's all we mean, what you what we mean with we talk to you if you feel insulted by something like what's going on there, right? To explore that.

SPEAKER_00 34:23

Yeah. No, I that's a very good point there, is is the idea that we automatically look at the other people who have said something and it's them as opposed to how is it that I took that wrong or I might have un misunderstood that, or they're just being them and they've got growth. They they need to learn, they need to, you know, and uh how can I help them do that or or allow them to be like that so that they can find their way into society as opposed to just rejecting them.

SPEAKER_03 35:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:03

And uh yeah. So but yeah, so creating something that's never existed before is is a very difficult challenge, isn't it?

SPEAKER_01 35:11

Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 35:12

And and so what we're asking you as listeners is what are what do you desire? What do you what do you want to create in your life that has never existed before? And and how are you going about that? What's stopping you from doing that? And what do you need to help you do that? And that's what the village is all about, right? It's helping people create something that they've never had before in their lives, something more positive, something more uplifting, something more, you know, courageous.

SPEAKER_03 35:44

No.

SPEAKER_00 35:44

Um, and if you're comfortable with where you are, that's great too. Be that way. But but don't get trapped in a a prison that somebody else has placed you there because you think that's where you need to be. There is growth out here, there is room for people to be more than what you are.

SPEAKER_01 36:04

Yeah. Or even that you placed yourself in that, right? Because we are often if we're afraid of something, then we feel also um that we're holding ourselves back. And it's like it's it's sometimes fear gives us an excuse to not do something that we really want to do. And so that's something that uh is also big influence at times. Right. Holding us back.

SPEAKER_00 36:32

Well, hey, this has been great. We gotta do more of these, right? We are gonna do more of these. And uh we're gonna share them in the village. And uh uh we look forward to hearing back from you. If you have any comments, you have any questions, um, you know, yeah, just you know, shoot us an email or engage in the village. That would be wonderful.

SPEAKER_01 36:52

Even uh requests for like please talk about this or that is also fine. Absolutely. That's uh everything that uh comes to mind. Yeah. Alrighty.

SPEAKER_00 37:02

All right. Well, thanks folks, and we will see you in our next episode.

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